You better “pay up” or your love investment could be liquidated.
The stock market has been in the news quite a bit lately. If you’ve been watching the news, it seems like the market is going straight down like a fast elevator.
If you have investments in the stock market, you might be thinking about your next move. You could wait it out, you could do nothing, or you could sell. You could buy more of a stock to add to your holdings. You could try to stop the bleeding.
All of these types of decisions are similar to what you go through in a relationship. Every day another decision has to be made, or no decision at all.
In the world of investing, you might be given a margin call. What happens is that some investors borrow money and use their assets as collateral, but then the value of those assets can go down when stocks plummet. Thus, the broker might demand more money or assets. If that doesn’t happen, there could be some forced selling. I’m no expert on this so I’m giving the abbreviated version.
Relationships are similar and have their own types of margin calls, wherein one party might issue an alert that there is a discrepancy that needs to have a remedy or there will come about a forced resolution. This type of margin call could be emotional, social, or physical.
People make all kinds of investments in relationships, and they want to preserve the value of their contributions. Sometimes a partner becomes aware of perceived inequities in the parties’ investments into the relationship. You want to prevent this from happening.
What are some types of investment declines that can lead to relationship margin calls?
- Attention. Is one person in the relationship giving more quality time and attention to the other? Sometimes it gets annoying if one person is the one who does most of the communication. A person may need more contact throughout the day and it is not forthcoming.
- Intimacy. This happens to many relationships, where there is a lack of physical intimacy and this results in a decline in the quality of the relationship. Does one partner never seem to initiate or show an interest in bedroom activities?
- Money. This is a huge relationship crusher, if there are too many conflicts about income and where the money is going or not going.
Margin Call Issued
How will you know if a relationship margin call is used due to a perceived imbalance in investment value? Believe me, you will know right away.
- Someone will be direct about it and tell you
- There will be less communication or even silence
- The mood will worsen
- The fun will be gone
Remedies for a Relationship Margin Call
Yes, you can bring your relationship account back up to its minimum value so you don’t have to liquidate the emotional and social investments you have made. How do you do this?
- Be attentive to the needs of your partner
- Be more agreeable
- Be kind and tender
- Be more communicative
- Be more committed to the relationship
We are likely to hear about margin calls a lot in the coming months if the stock market continues its descent. But you don’t have to suffer through a relationship margin call.
Make sure you are investing in your relationship and that there is balance. If you want to save your relationship, you need to make sure that you don’t get an alert from your partner that you need to meet your margin call or else there will be a forced liquidation of your love.