Out of the blue, I get online action requests from strangers and it’s starting to make me feel weird

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“I’m trying to reach one million views on this (insert certain online activity) and I am so close to it, so won’t you help me get there?”

Have you seen this recently? I don’t know if it’s just me, but it seems everywhere I go there are direct action requests for me to do something on the internet for people I’ve never met before.

I’ll be honest with you and say that I don’t like getting these requests from anybody at all. Don’t call me selfish or anything. I’ve got enough real household chores as it is.

These requests come in different ways. I see people talk online about how they want more followers and all and they’re asking everyone for help in getting to a goal. Okay, I don’t have a problem with that. We’re all trying to make it in this online world and trying to get successful.

But please don’t send me messages asking me to do something to help you. It’s really weird, and kind of like strangers on a bus asking me to help them in their garden. No, thank you.

Here are some action requests I have received lately, in quotes:

  • “Comment please.” These words were sent to me in a direct message with a link to something someone was trying to promote. Seriously, I don’t know this person at all. And the request was way too short. The person could at least have overwhelmed me with compliments, praise and flattery first because then I would keep reading. After all, you get more flies with honey.
  • “I did two things for you and I would appreciate if you did the same for me." Okay, again, don’t do this to people. I don’t know this person and I don’t like feeling that I need to catch up to what they did to me. If you want to do something, do it, or if you want to do some sort of reciprocal action, then just agree on it first between the parties.
  • “Please like this.” Yes, people want these like-button affirmations on their work and I understand it all, but this is way too direct for me. I’ve never interacted with this person. Now I just want to get far away from whatever it is.

There is a lot of content on the internet and there is a finite amount of free time that people have each day. I understand that people are doing everything they can to get more attention to their work or business.

If we have known each other a while and enjoyed each other’s work in various ways, I don’t mind a direct action request every once in a while. I’m human too, and not a robot, and I lose track if I’m not doing my part or pulling my weight to help the team. I’m going as fast as I can.

Can you imagine strangers on the street asking you to do things like:

  • Say I am wonderful
  • Tell people I’m awesome
  • Share this photograph of me with others
  • Do my lawn
  • Dinner
  • Laundry
  • Dog
  • It
  • That
  • You know

It’s getting too weird for me on the internet so I’m going to try not to read these types of messages. I’m going to use my time wisely figuring out why that one person didn’t give me a thumbs-up emoji while she give it to everyone else, or what people thought of me when I accidentally gave a laughing emoji instead of a smiling one.

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